When those around us hurt us, especially those who are suppose to love us the most, if we are not careful our thought processes and their insistence may lead us to believe we are the cause of this hurt. For example, ever had someone special in your life that it did not matter what you did in the relationship it was or is never enough. Sad to say this is the case in many marriages, true both husbands and wives are affected by this but this article is geared more toward the wives. Nevertheless, does the relationship have to die?
Many times this type of behavior is deeper than just saying the person is downright mean in nature. What I am talking about here is not a physically abusive relationship in your marriage, though it may border on the lines of mental and verbal. Each marriage and situation is different and only you can make the decision as to which you are in. Nevertheless, the question is still does the relationship have to die? In addition, is there more going on with your partner that he cannot control on his own?
Moodiness – excessive mood changes that are hard for you to understand.
A few causes of moodiness can be a form of depression, anxiety, mania, emotional and even some personality disorders.
Conditions that can cause moodiness – bi-polar disorder, borderline personality disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and lyme’s disease, just to name a few.
Mood disorders and their causes affect almost 44 million Americans yearly. It is believed that most mood disorders are caused by complex chemical imbalances in the brain and most are treatable. Two of the most common disorders are depression and bipolar disorder better known as manic-depression.
When one suffers from bipolar disorder, they experience extreme mood swings that can also be accompanied by periods of so-called normal behavior. During these periods of normal behavior the man you married and love so much is able to love you back, to respect you and who you are, believes in you and your hopes and dreams and most of all they believe in you as a couple. Shear Bliss.
The onset of one of his extreme mood swings will catch you off guard each time it happens. Sometimes these mood swings will happen once a year, then twice and as they get older will begin to happen on a monthly, weekly even daily basis. This is when it gets hard for the relationship to survive and often, marital breakups occur.
Have you been experiencing a few of the following with your spouse?
1. an inflated self-important attitude
He struts around with his head up in the air as if superior to everyone and thing around him. It doesn’t matter what you have to say it is usually laughed at are responded too in a condescending way.
2. a decreased amount of sleep needed
You both go to bed at your normal workweek times yet he’s up sometimes as early as 2 or 3 o’clock in the morning walking around the house or watching television.
3. you can’t keep up with his thoughts
You will be sitting around making idle chit chat and all of sudden you find yourself in a heated argument and cannot for the life of you figure out how you got there.
4. has more energy than normal
He has been up since 2 or 3 in the morning, left for work at 5:30 a.m., returned home approximately 12 or 13 hours later goes out mows the lawn, prunes the bushes and cleans out the shed all before dark and goes to gym for a work out in hopes of winding down.
You ask a simple question such as let’s just say, “Are you hungry?” This turns into something like, “Why are you always thinking about food, I guess this means you want to go out and spend money at a restaurant, it would make more sense if you just plan out the weekly meals and be sensible, it’s just the two of us here anyway, all we need is maybe a meat and a vegetable, we don’t need to be eating all that food anyway, that’s why you see etcÃ¢Â?Â¦Ã¢Â?Â¦Ã¢Â?Â¦..”
This type of relationship can be nerve wrecking if you do not understand what you are dealing with and what is causing the behavior. However, these are but a few symptoms that occur in mood disorders and it would take a specialist to confirm if your spouse is suffering from one of these disorders. Most of the time your spouse will not admit that anything is wrong and will not seek out help, this is when you have to become proactive in educating yourself in how to deal with the symptoms that you see and experience in your relationship. If the relationship is worth saving you also have to work on you and keeping your sanity through these times.