Instead of being abrupt, you should find the suitable time and place and then talk to your spouse about the thought of trial separation. Make sure you have plenty of time and no one will disturb your privacy, giving you enough time to talk to each other and discuss the matter. You can leave your children at your friend’s place or ask the help of your relatives.
You should not try to talk about other things but be focused and stick to the point as the former increases furiousness. You should be gentle and explain things to your spouse in a suitable way. Explain all the reasons that have forced you to think about trial separation and do not ignore anything or you might regret later.
Discuss with your spouse about the duration of trial separation. Do not make it too short or too long. Be sure that you tell your partner about the conditions of trial separation especially if you are considering patching up with other people during this period.
Your spouse might try to convince you against your decision but stay focused and do discuss how you plan to tell your children about the decision.