How to Emotionally Prepare For Marriage
It can be really tough to prepare oneself for marriage. The idea of living with one person for the rest of your life can make even the most confident of people nervous. It is easy to commit to something that is short-term, but life-long commitment is a completely different story.
People may tell you that married life is tough. On the other hand, TV shows, films and novels paint a completely different story, where life becomes heaven on earth when you have a spouse and children. You cannot really tell which side of the story is accurate unless you experience it yourself.
You will find it extremely hard to go through with marriage unless you prepare yourself emotionally for it.
It is extremely important to know the person that you are getting married. Diving into marriage blindly would not be the most rational thing to do, as you will not be aware of your compatibility with your partner. It is therefore imperative that you hold a long and deep conversation with the person you plan on getting married to. Speak to them about yourself so that they know who you really are. They will most likely reciprocate to this by sharing their secrets with you, at least the stuff that they feel you should know before committing to them.
One of the worst things that you can do to yourself, your partner and marriage itself is to hold expectations. You cannot possibly know what to expect from a married life or your spouse-to-be. Therefore, you will only be preparing yourself for a series of disappointments if you start expecting things to go the way you predicted. Your expectations from your future spouse and marriage may have been influenced by what your married relatives or friends shared with you. However, keep in mind that the marriage experience differs from person to person.
Even though divorce is an option in case the married life turns out to be disastrous, do not think about this option too much. In fact, do not think about it at all. You will not be able to commit yourself completely to your spouse and married life, neither will you be able to cope with the ups and downs that a married couple face if you keep the exit door in your sights.
Use the time between engagement and marriage to discuss significant issues such as kids, finances, religion, etc. with your spouse-to-be. If you two cannot reach on an agreement, there is no point in going ahead with the marriage, since there is a good chance that it would not be able to last.