Mustering enough courage
This is where you begin, especially if you’re the type of person who is passive and doesn’t make the first move. It is a good idea to prepare yourself mentally because you wouldn’t want to stand in front of the girl and realize you’ve blanked out on how and what to say.
Confidence is the key to asking any girl out. If you reek of nervousness or low confidence, you will put the girl off right that instant and a low self confidence level reflects badly on your self esteem and personality, portraying you as somebody with a weak character.
If you are unsure, stand in front of a mirror and practice your mannerisms and speech to perfect it all.
Be neat and clean
There’s nothing people hate more than bad hygiene. So it definitely helps to shower, shave and be in a presentable attire before moving towards the girl you want to ask out.
Approach with a smile
This will not only show that you’re confident in your own skin but also put her at ease, lowering her guard. But don't go to her grinning or smiling too much, just put up a polite, pleasant and friendly smile.
Keep your head on when you're talking to the girl. If she’s responding in a manner that shows she’s uncomfortable, re-evaluate your conversation topics.
If you think she’s getting bored, bring up topics that might interest her. Bring her on to a certain comfort level before finally posing the question.
Humor is always effective in a conversation. There’s nothing more attractive for women than a guy who can make them laugh. But this doesn't mean you keep cracking a joke after another. Take it slow, throw in something funny here and there and don't be over-active or aggressive with your humor.
This is another key ingredient of a successful first conversation, before you ask the girl out on Valentine’s Day. However, this doesn’t mean that you should be overly arrogant or try too hard.
There’s a thin line that shouldn’t be crossed otherwise you will come off as somebody who is overconfident and in need of a reality check.
Don’t be a show off
This is one mistake most people make in the hopes of ‘impressing’ the girl before they ask her out. Guess what? It backfires most of the time because it shows you’re full of yourself and not someone who can step out of his own shoes. Girls like good listeners, not incessant talkers and self absorbed guys.
You need to encourage her to speak and share things with you. Ask her questions because that will show you’re interested in what she has to say. But be sure you aren’t too probing and personal with your questions.
Ask her out
Pop the question only after you’re sure she has been interested in you all along. Make sure you don’t come off too strong. Be gentle in your choice of words and the way you approach the topic.
If you’re too upfront with the question, she may crawl back into her defensive shell and there is a chance you may spend the Valentine’s Day alone. Good luck!