Understand your in-laws
Understanding your in-laws means more than just seeing them occasionally. If you can get in touch with the in-laws often, you can understand the culture and mindset they like and this will make it easier for you to deal with them properly. Understanding them also means that you understand their attitude, behaviour, likes and dislikes. Having more conversations with them will also help them understand your attitude, likes and dislikes.
Being socially awkward can put a large dent in your relationship with the in-laws and most of the people who complain about bad in-laws are found to be socially inept. Being sociable does not mean that you put a big smile on your face every time you meet one of your in-laws; rather you should be ready to help them out and make them feel comfortable whenever you are around them.
Show them that you love their company
When your in-laws are around, show them that you enjoy their company. You can show your happiness by interacting with them and having a friendly conversation with them. Of course, your routine may not give you enough time to stay with the in-laws, but if you can have lunch or dinner with them occasionally, or invite them over to your house every month, the relationship will flourish.
Give them a helping hand
Helping each other out during rough times can really make a difference. Although it is common for people to have disagreements over things, giving each other a helping hand can overshadow negative points. Be courageous enough to ask your in-laws if they need your help (in any situation).
Stand up for yourself; don’t get your family involved when things get rough
If you and your spouse have a bit of an argument and things seem to get out of control, do not resort to getting help from your families. Try to sort the issue out yourself as you know that you are grown up enough to stand on your own.