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Take More Chances
The best way to improve your skills is to take more chances. If you keep avoiding people, you cannot socialise and improve from there on. So go out and get yourself mixed with people. For example, attend more social functions and interact with more and more people. If you drink, go and have a normal drink with your friends on a regular basis. More you socialise more you learn about other people and this helps you make more friends and you will thus get a chance to spend more time with them.
Body Language and Expressions
Your body language and expressions are important part of your communication. If you socialise less it affects your body language and you often end up in complete silence while introducing yourself to a group of people you want to talk to. So try to remain confident and start talking with small things first and then you will grow into larger discussions and this will help you to consistently improve your communication skills.
Conversation: Talk, Talk and Talk
A simple way to improve your social skills is to just talk and continue to talk. It is not just that you start talking about things which you do not know about or are irrelevant for the occasions, but you have to find reasons to talk with your friends on a regular basis. Sometimes you can easily find issues to start talking with strangers and sometimes you are mum in front of friends. Just have a go and then you can switch to a better idea in the way of your conversation.
It is often that you do not find people that friendly on your first day at a new place. For example, if you are going to your college or university first time, you are likely to get some strange looks and taunts, but do not feel low. If you do that is end for you, and it takes a lot more time to recover from it. So take the critical looks and even direct criticism of your style of conversation boldly and grow from that ebb, gradually. A time comes when you look back at your first day at that place and you laugh off at yourself, because your confidence grows.
Reading Supporting Material
It is better to read some supporting quotes and other prescriptive stuff on how you can boost your confidence and improve your conversation skills etc. The market is flooded with such material that is written from the personal experiences of the writers or from experiences of social and sports personalities. So it is better read that stuff and pick positive ideas.
Posted by fred-hassan in Family & Relationships