How Do You Know If You Are in Love with Someone?
I believe everyone has their own definition for “inspiration”. What inspires me may not inspire you. So I am not going to make this a general definition. Everyone has to determine what inspires them to love. No one can tell you what makes you feel inspired, only you and God know, but what ever it is that inspires you to love, You Know It!
Taking the above as food for thought it begs the question of what inspires you to love? For me, knowing when you are in love means knowing what inspires you to love. This works for me. Do you know what inspires you to love?
Knowing What Inspires You to Love Requires Knowing Yourself
Do you know yourself? Do you know what inspires you? Knowing these things about yourself is the answer to knowing when you are in love. Undoubtedly you know yourself better than anyone else. Often we don’t want to get to know who we really are? For reasons that only we know. Some of us get counseling to help us embrace who we really are, and others simply go through life struggling to find out why we keep repeating the same cycle in our life.
Embracing who we are is a fundamental exercise of human spiritual and emotional growth. Those who refuse to take part in embracing who they really are, will never reach their full potential as a person. I guess for some, where they are in life is fine with them, they don’t desire to reach their full potential, but for those of us who feel compelled to reach for God, it is a must that we strive to reach our full potential. Often in relationships people neglect to embrace the truth of who they are and therefore cannot understand themselves enough to answer questions of love.
What About You?
This Valentines day people are running around to demonstrate how much they love someone by purchasing flowers, candy, cards, etc. Does this really mean they are in love with someone? Does receiving flowers, candy, cards, etc. inspire you? I had to ask myself this question and my answer is those things don’t inspire me. Gifts and presents are nice to give and to receive, but they don’t inspire me for a number of reasons. 1) I have had individuals give me flowers that turned out to really hate me and want to do me harm, use and abuse me. 2) I believe a demonstration of love should be shown always, consistently present, even when things are going wrong, you know when someone really loves you or not. 3) I believe you should not have to play head games and do mental gymnastics to determine if you are in love with someone. 4) Gifts and presents fade away, but love never dies. I could go on and on, but the point is this is what I feel about demonstrating love and being in love. What about you? How do you feel about it?
What Inspires You?
When we love someone we let them in to our heart and world. It is only natural that there will be disappointments, but the disappointments should not be more than the happiness the relationship brings. Through sharing with someone you love you allow them to touch your soul and bring out what is truly there. Someone that you love can only touch you in those places that are hidden and bring forth the best in you. This is why we will listen to someone we love and not listen to someone we don’t love. This is why we listen to God talking to us. It’s the voice of God that leads us into the truth about who we are.
I was talking with a friend of mine and we discussed the idea of soul mates vs. being physically attracted/desired to/by someone. The question was do you have more than one soul mate? We discussed it and there was pause to the question. What is your answer to the question? Do you believe you can have more than one soul mate? In Webster’s dictionary the definition for soul mate is: “a person temperamentally suited to another”. With this definition in mind my answer is yes, you can have more than one soul mate. This is evident in simple relationships like with your best friend, brother, sister, mother or father. Relationships that do not cross over into physical desire. Surely you can be a soul mate when there is a physical desire, most men and women who want to get married have a physical desire for each other. After all, when someone is physically suited to each other, it goes without saying that there is a great possibility that they are temperamentally suited to each another. This aspect of being temperamentally suited to each other is part the catalyst for most of the inspiration that is generated between two people in love.
I am reminded of a couple who when the women thought that her man was in mortal danger called the police and fire department by dialing 911. She explained to the operator that she thought her man was in trouble because he was complaining about his chest hurting and they were talking on the phone and he simply dropped off the line. When she tried to call him back, he did not answer. The 911 operator contacted the police and fire department and they went to the address of her man, when they knocked he did not answer so they kicked the door in. Thank God when they got inside he was asleep in his bed, albeit, naked, but alive. He was so shocked that he jumped up and the firemen and policed were taken back to see him naked, but comforted to know that he was alive. They all laughed after he recovered from the shock of it all. I tell you this true story because when you are in love with someone, you are inspired to do what is necessary to ensure that person is happy and well. Ask yourself, would you have been inspired to call 911 to ensure that your loved one was ok?
These are examples of what I believe inspiration of love is. I’m sure you have some examples of your own. Let me know what yours are.
What Does The Bible Have To Say About It?
The Bible teaches us that we are to love God with all your heart and soul Deuteronomy, chapter 11 verse 13. Only through loving God can we achieve the knowledge and understanding of what real love is and how to love ourselves and someone else. In fact for me, one of the ways I know I am in love is when my women knows that her first love is God. I say this because a women that knows how to love God inspires me. Romans chapter 8 verse 28 says “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. ” Personally I want a women that loves God so that all things will work together for good too! 😉 I want God’s purpose in my life.
The Bible also says that “charity covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter chapter 4 verse 8). The definition of “charity” is: lenient judgment of others. You must be willing and able to have lenient judgment of the person you are in love with. Be willing to grow with your mate through communication when mistakes are made. This is a on going thing, it never ends as long as you both live. The Bible says the greatest thing is charity, I Corinthians chapter 13 verse 13 “And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.” It also says “And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.” I Corinthians Chapter 13 verse 2. If you cannot show charity for each other, but everything else is simply wonderful, your relationship really is nothing. Charity is another word for love, one of it’s definitions is: benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity.
How Do You Know When You Are In Love With Someone?
How do you know when you are in love? What is the difference in loving someone and being in love with someone? What inspires you to love someone? Can you have more than one soul mate? What is the difference between a soul mate and a lover? Are you inspired to make sure your loved one is healthy and well? Does your love line up with what the Bible says about the greatest gift (I Corinthians chapter 13 verse 13)? I hope these questions cause you to think about your own personal answers. Your answer to these questions will undoubtedly reveal to you “How you know when you are in love with someone.”
