Anger and aggressive feelings can sneak up on anyone at any time. Even the most laid back folks feel the sting occasionally. There’s no way to avoid feeling anger, and you shouldn’t. Suppressing it can only make matters worse for you. If you let it build, you’re going to blow your stack one day, and it’s not going to be pretty.
Instead of suppressing feelings of anger and aggression, you should find constructive ways to release it and let it go. Everyone has different ways of dealing with these feelings, and you should use whatever works best for you. Whether your anger comes from children who won’t listen, noisy neighbors, or bigger family or community issues, taking the edge off your steam will help you deal with the situation with a level head.
Count To Ten
It’s a clichÃ?Â©, but it works. If you are about to say something in a moment of anger, turn away and count to ten. Most times this gives you just enough time to bite your tongue. Most things said in moments of anger are regretted. Count to ten, take a few deep breaths, and say what’s on your mind in a calmer, less angry fashion. You’ll be glad you did.
Are you a jogger? Take a quick run around the block when you feel like you might explode. The feel good endorphins associated with exercise will help calm your mood, leaving you feeling less aggressive and more in control of your anger.
For moments of pure rage, take it out on something that you can’t hurt. When the worst happens like death, crime, injury, or any other type of deep violation, anger can soar to dangerous heights. You may want to beat the crap out of someone who severely hurt you, but that will only make things worse in the end. Take it out on a punching bag or even your pillow.
Build Something, Anything
When someone you love wrongs you, the anger can fester and that is not good for anyone’s health. Sometimes creating something new is a wonderful outlet. This helps you rid yourself of your anger by giving it a name. This type of outlet has created many great works of art. Build a birdhouse or anything made out of wood. Pounding nails into the wood will release some of your anger and aggression.
Get down on your hands and knees and take your aggression and anger out on your floors. Look for a cleaning chore you have been neglecting and give it the scrubbing of a lifetime. Not only will this help release your anger, you’ll get something done. Shower grout, shower doors, and kitchen floors are great targets for vigorous scrubbings.
Write It Down
Grab some paper and a pen and write it out. Express your feelings in writing and watch your anger slip away. Write down why you are angry, who made you angry, and what you want to do about it. Just write whatever comes out. It may not be an answer to your problem, but you will feel better with this sort of release. This also allows you to give your anger and aggression a voice, and may help you understand it on a clearer level.
Find a way to relax when anger and aggression get the best of you. Use deep breathing and yoga, or just close your eyes and picture a place you find to be calm and relaxing. No matter what you choose to do, make sure you are taking deep, cleansing breaths. This helps diffuse anger and clears you mind.
The way you choose to deal with your anger doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do it. Stress caused by anger can age you, make you tired and lethargic, and will stay with you indefinitely if you don’t deal with it. You don’t want to carry piles of anger around with you. If you do, it will release itself eventually and most likely this will be in a way you will regret.