The first thing that you need to do is to accept that your current relationship is not going good and that your partner is abusing you. Unless you yourself are convinced that you are in an abusive relationship, you will remain hesitant to make an effort to get out of it. Understand that abuse can come in a variety of forms, which includes mental abuse such as humiliation, degradation, threats and controlling behaviour, and physical abuse.
Convince yourself that you are not to be blamed for the actions of your partner. Do not start believing the justifications that your partner gives for abusing you. The moment you lose faith in yourself, you will find yourself getting trapped in your partner’s web, thus allowing the torment to continue.
If your partner has become abusive only recently while being really respectful of you in the past, do not assume that it is just a phase that he is going through. Abusive behaviour typically does not change without counselling, which your partner is likely to reject as they would not be willing to accept their mistake and will instead try to put the blame on you.
You need to get out of the relationship, but do not do so blindly. Assess the situation that you are in. Does your partner have something to blackmail you with? Can you manage without their money? Did they threat you with something?
Once you have assessed your situation, it is time to plan your exit from the relationship. Make sure you do not leave anything important behind, such as your credit or debit card, cheque book, jewellery, medication, identification card and papers, etc. Make a list of things you needs and then double check it to ensure that you will not be forced to return. You also need to decide the place where you will be staying. You can either considering going to your parent’s house, or stay at a friend’s house until you can make arrangements for your own accommodation.
After you are away from your abusive partner, surround yourself with people who love and respect you. This will help you relax, feel safe and regain your self-esteem.